We offer small group grief workshops about seven times yearly, mainly in New England. Our unique approach to dealing with grief helps participants let go of old emotional pain holding them back and keeping them stuck in the past. Participants report a renewed sense of peace and joy.
Many people who are stuck in grief go around and around in their heads about it. They are caught in a cycle of thoughts and feelings. Many times people can't break that cycle, so they seek help from various sources, including grief support groups, therapy, retreats, and workshops.
Talking about our grief can be somewhat helpful in releasing past pain, and for some, that is all that is needed, While there is some time at our grief retreats to talk about a person's grief, what we do is radically different: We focus most of our time on working through the feelings that are tied into these thoughts. Read on to learn more about our approach.
Grief is a feeling, not a thought, although we have thoughts related to our grief feelings. But we are primarily stuck in our feelings, our emotions, not our thoughts. Thoughts can be a gateway into feelings, but for many, just talking about emotional pain does not alleviate it...we need to go deeper into and through the emotions.
Most of us don't know how to do this or do this in a way where we are not drowning in the feelings.
Our emotions are often suppressed because they are uncomfortable to our brains and sense of self. Our brains don't understand emotions. Our brains can hold facts about emotions/feelings, but feelings are deeper than the thinking brain.
Our brains register feelings but don't know how to deal with them. At our grief retreats, we can help people heal from grief because we go much deeper than the thoughts, than just our brains.
Our grief workshops help people go into the old feelings by going into the body. That is where we hold our feelings...in our hearts, muscles, digestive areas, etc. These "gut feelings" are where we need to go.
We primarily hold fear in our nervous system, anger in our muscles, and grief in our digestive areas. Each of these main feelings operates differently....fear contracts us; for example...we get tight, want to hide or run, etc.
Complicated grief is grief that continues and doesn't seem to heal over time. It is often caused by other feelings, such as anger, resentment, or anxiety, that we are holding onto below the grief or mixed in with our grief.
Our grief workshops focus on the wisdom of your body, which knows how to heal emotions. These other feelings often surface as a person delves into their experience of grief.
When we were a baby, we cried when we were sad, expressed anger when we were angry and shook and made high-pitched sounds when we were afraid. We naturally felt our feelings, and didn't hide from them or hold them in our bodies unless there was severe trauma. We experienced them and let them go.
But as we grew up early on, we learned to push these feelings down into our bodies...we tried to become good little boys and girls by suppressing feelings that we felt and thought our parents didn't approve of. For example, if we didn't want to be a "cry baby" we suppressed our grief.
Later on, we had difficulty accessing those feelings. As Joy Davey once said "We become the perfect person to please everyone else, but we have lost ourselves."
The grief workshop can help us find ourselves again by learning to reclaim our feelings. And not just grief, but all of our feeling. It helps us come alive again.
Here is a link to our main retreat page, with dates and prices of the upcoming events. I require a free 20-30 minute phone call to ensure the retreat is appropriate for you. This is not a counseling session but a time to ask questions about whether the workshop is for you. You can set up a call by using the link below. I will get back to you within 24 hours unless I lead an event.